This year my family is doing an out of the box Thanksgiving - we are in Miami instead of celebrating at-home in Long Island. While I am thrilled to be on the beach, I am a bit sad that we aren’t in cozy clothes cooking a feast at-home.
Regardless of where I celebrate,I am thankful for lots of things this years…
1. My parents … Thanks for a great vacation and for being a huge support this year (and always)
2. My best friends … PBJ & A - My life would be nothing without you all. Thanks for being my back bone this year. I needed it.
3. My family … From the Dominican Concord in 1987 to the Sagamore Miami in 2013 - our laughs continue. Here’s to Family Vacation 2.0
4. My office family … I know I threw you for a loop a few months but things work out. See ya December 3rd.
5. My bartenders… Thanks for all the advice. I know Mr. Right is just a stool away.
I hope that you all have a wonderful holiday and share with those around you what you are thankful for!
I have this debate with myself (and friends) all the time… When it comes to online dating, what is most important? Is it the pictures? The “About Me?” Combination of both? Or is it your “screen name” that first sparks someone’s interest.
I still haven’t figured out the answer, but last night I decided to give my online dating profile a little facelift (including a new screen name) to see what happens.
Last week I had a date. I met him through Tinder, and we made a plan for drinks. Strike one with this guy was the location he picked. A dive beer bar on 2nd Avenue. Strike two with this guy is that he isn’t gainfully employed. Rather he does a little bit of this and a little bit of that. Strike three… No attraction in person. When I went home, I called my mom to tell her about the date and when she heard he “freelances” her immediate reaction was “Bye-bye, no 401K.” I cracked up laughing because I thought the same thing. For years my parents and their friends always joke with me that when I meet someone I should ask, “So what percentage do you put into your 401K?” I would never do that, but on a few occasion I’ve thought maybe I would just so see what reaction I would get.
I pride myself on having my own 401K, granted I should be adding more to it but I do what I can. To test out my theory on what men really notice on dating profiles, I changed my name last night to “IHaveA401K.” When I told two of my friends they fell to the ground laughing. My parents cracked up. And I simply found it amusing and curious to see what the response would be.
My name has been approved and now I have to wait and see if I get any traction. I’ll be sure to keep you posted!Comments
Last week I went to dinner at Quality Italian for a friend’s birthday. This new spot has been getting rave reviews for its food and scene, so obviously I had to check it out.
I arrived early to scope out the bar scene and grab a glass of wine after yet another hectic day. The bar was busy, but I was able to find a spot at the end of the bar (not the ideal location, but that’s what was available). I ordered a glass of red, surveyed the scene and came to two conclusions:
1. Wannabe hipsters invade new spots because they want to be “cool.” The benefit of these people is pure entertainment, because they show up all decked out in their finest hoping to see someone. For me, this allows for great conversation.
2. A large group of men doesn’t mean they are available. You’d think a table of 10 men would be amazing… Not so much. When men in this large of a pack head out to a new restaurant it’s for one of two reasons. Client dinner and someone is expensing it, or bachelor party/guy’s night with the guys. Both of which leave no time for meeting a lady.
In a nutshell, a hotspot may not be the best spot to meet a man. While there are large groups of men (and women), they tend to all be out for a good time with the guys or a night away from the wife (and kids). And if (for some reason) they do engage with a woman or group of women, it’s just to be silly or see if they still have “the moves” they had before the wife and kids.
While I’ll definitely go back to Quality Italian for the food, I won’t return in search of a quality man.Comments